Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.

Helpless

on May 29, 2008

I posted this on another blog of mine.

Helpless
Posted 05-20-2008 at 09:50 PM

I want to be the friend Arwen needs this weekend. I’ll do all that I can to make it so. But, what can you do for someone you love who feels she is finally able to go through her mom’s things so that the house can be sold? I have no words to give her….just my presence and willingness to work beside her.

Mother’s Day was a rough day for her. The first she has been without her mother. Yet, I feel it won’t compare to this weekend at all. One of the biggest things she’ll face it what to do with her mother’s ashes. They will be waiting on her when she gets there. (She lives in a different state.) I never got the opportunity to meet her mom. Plans had been made but her mom died unexpectedly. In order to help her decide what to do with them, I’ll have to ask more about her mother’s likes and dislikes. Did she have a favorite place? A favorite thing to do? That’s what would help me make a decision if it were my own mother. But, I’m lucky enough to have a good relationship with all three of my sisters. Arwen doesn’t have one with her sister at all.

Normally, keeping her busy keeps her mind off things but the very thing we would want to relieve thoughts of is directly involved in the work she’ll be doing. My prayer is that having all three of us there with her will be the crutch she needs. Before us, Chane would have handled things very well but, now she has three of us to lean on. And the beauty of the relationship is that we all three meet different needs or meet the same ones in a different way.

This is the only weekend in a while that we can all go as easily. The unfortunate thing about that is she’s had a very stressful couple of weeks at work. Add this stress and I’m not sure how she’ll handle it. I’ll be reminding (though I doubt it is needed) the rest of us to remember that she may be short and all and that we need to let that roll off our backs. We will have to be there for each other to make sure that happens.

It is probably obvious to all who read my blogs that I use them to get some of my thoughts together. Instead of getting the thoughts together before I post. It’s like I’m having a conversation with each of you and you are just letting me talk and work it out as I go. Thank you all for that. I come here for things that I don’t even go to others about. Some are for obvious reasons but I could talk with other friends and my family about how I feel lacking in what I’ll be able to do for Arwen and they’d be there for me. You are there for all the issues I have in my poly relationship

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4 responses to “Helpless

  1. letseatcake! says:

    Re: Twitter

    Funny enough, I happened upon a Twitterer named KittenGator. I thought, “how funny, is that Kitten?” and I added her so I could spy on her out of curiosity, haha. I’ve been following this girl’s boring updates about her baby for about a month now, and am getting the distinct impression it is NOT your Kitten-Gator.

    What a funny coincidence, because the way I found her was in my friend’s Tweets, you know how stranger’s updates are included in your status page if they include the name of one of your friends?

    anyway, thought that was weird.

    • ourquad says:

      No, that couldn’t be my hubby and his girlfriend. But, yes, that’s weird. I may have to check that one out myself. Just for the fun of it. And the curiosity of it.

    • Catherine says:

      Sorry my Twitter was so boring to you. Actually, no I’m not, my life ROCKS! Thanks for the shout-out 🙂

      Take care,
      KittenGator

  2. Hey very nice blog!!….I’m an instant fan, I have bookmarked you and I’ll be checking back on a regular….See ya

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