Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.

The Perfect Couple

on February 3, 2011

Ok, I’ve been told I portray Dirk and I as the perfect couple. We aren’t.

What we are is a couple, when faced with an unknown and often painful situation, decided to work and grow to find a way to deal with it and not only survive as a couple but to thrive as a couple.

I should have maybe only talked about us and not the others. But, they have been such a huge part of my life that I need to talk about them. And since these are my perceptions, I could only go by what I saw, and heard, and was told at times. The telling of how things are was very rare. Chane and Arwen could be a different perfect couple. If it works for them, then what they are doing is best for them.

I’m sad and hurt and depressed over this breakup but, I will never regret the relationship. While I know that each relationship is different, I wanted as close a relationship with Chane.  I wanted to put in that much work with him. I truly have loved him.

Bottom line is Dirk and I are a good couple. And I am proud of the journey we’ve made. We have managed to be a stronger couple through this. I won’t apologize for feeling that is true.



5 responses to “The Perfect Couple

  1. IntrigueMe says:

    You certainly shouldn’t apologise for this! I don’t think you’ve ever portrayed yourselves as the perfect couple, but more, expressed the fact that you two can communicate very well.

    • Oneof4 says:

      Ahhh, yes, that sounds more like what I was trying to do.

      Thank you.

    • I wish I could say that we communicate well. Maybe by reading this blog I’ll learn how to do that better. I’m trying-but sure feel like I’m failing miserably.
      I agree with you though-it’s never been my impression that she was portraying herself as a perfect person OR perfect couple. Just a conscientious and caring person who makes a sincere effort in her relationship(s).

  2. I never noticed that your blog link was in your comments on my blog. I’m pretty new to the whole “blog” and “online community” thing. I’m learning more each day. 😉

    I’m sorry about your break-up. I’m glad you sent me a message. I’m struggling too-it doesn’t make me feel better to know others are struggling too. But, it does make me feel better to know that there are people out there who care enough to share with me that they are struggling/hurting.
    You’ve been such a help and big support to me this last year. I hope you will keep posting (I’ve got a lot of reading to do to catch up now that I found your blog!) and keep in touch.
    I haven’t posted in over a week. I haven’t known what to say. Maybe I’ll post about that today.

    • Oneof4 says:

      I know how you feel. At times there’s just so much that goes on in my head I can’t get it all out in any reasonable order. And there are times that I just feel as if I’ll be repeating myself over and over.
      I love reading your posts, you’ll find a link or two to them in my blog, and you’ve helped me as well.
      That’s another thing my blog is for. Why I just wouldn’t make it private if I wasn’t going to take it down completely.

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