Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.


on July 12, 2011

Part of my family is going through what I feel will end in divorce.

What started it all and keeps it all going?


Well, that isn’t the beginning of the issues. There are underlying things that led to the cheating. I get that though I do not condone the cheating. The dishonesty of that. I am not blind to why it can led to this.

Then there are the double standards. What makes cheating for one different that the cheating of the other. One was due to long-standing threats and the other was for revenge against the first for cheating.

They each think the what the other did was worse that what they did. Why do the reasons for doing it matter? They did the same thing.

Am I totally off on this. Two wrongs do not make it right and I wouldn’t say “you are even now” but, why is one worse than the other? And why is it still ok in some people’s eyes for a man to cheat but not a woman? Why does that somehow make her a slut and a whore but not him?

You’d think in this day and age things would be different.

And since these family members know about Dirk and I, they’d know there are alternatives. But, then again, this didn’t happen because the other suddenly saw someone they couldn’t stand not to have sex with. It happened because they had problems other than this.

It just shows me that I am indeed lucky in life. In my romantic life. To have the freedom to choice if I want to be involved with anyone else. To have the long-standing relationship I have that has definitely had its bad times over all these years but, through commitment and sometimes just plain old stubbornness, had made it through.



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