Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.

A Little Quirk of Mine

on September 22, 2011

I’ve started reading a new blog. It’s well written and illustrated by a talented artist. You can find it here at Matt Bullen. While reading it today a thought hit me that often does. So I’m calling it my little quirk. And it always makes me feel good.

Throughout my time swinging and in polyamory, I continue to get a warm, fuzzy feeling when I see SO so encouraging of their partners finding others to share their lives with. Whether that be in the form of helping them think of a perfect first date with someone, watching the children of the new interest while they are on a date, support when things may be going rough in the other relationship to holding your SO while they cry over the breakup of a relationship.

That’s all just so cool to me. And to know that someone has lived monogamously for a long time and struggled for a while with the changing mindset needed, makes it even more amazing to me.

Dirk and I were on a date not too long ago. At dinner our waiter was cute and attentive and appropriately flirty. I had a ball with him in that light setting. At the club later, one of the members of the band was more my style and I commented on taking him home with us to Dirk. He was just fine with that. Unfortunately, that was during the first stages of my back recovery. (If I had been thinking clearly, I would have at least gotten his number to call later. But I’m new to looking for others.)

The point for here is, how cool was that? I felt so comfortable with Dirk and telling him all this. I wonder how many other couples in that room could have done the same. I’m sure some but…though poly may be on a larger scale than ever, it is still a mono society by and large.

So, I get the warm fuzzies when I see such openness and genuine encouragement such as the post I was reading.



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