Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.

Talking With My Children

I had one child confront (?) me a little while ago about not being open about seeing others. That he thought we had come far enough in things that I wouldn’t keep it from him. Truth is, we aren’t dating any one. He was talking about swinging as well. And we aren’t doing that right now.

We just do not have the time or finances for much right now. When we do get time, it is usually because we have set aside one night a month for US to go on a regular date. Our relationship needs that. Call me crazy but I can’t cancel that one date we get to go on another one with someone else. We don’t have internet at home right now so, meeting or searching out others isn’t so easy either.

The other child, who recently got a divorce, I brought up non-monogamy with. I thought this was the perfect time to see if he had thought about whether he wanted to  live monogamously. If he could live monogamously. That’s what he wants. Monogamy. Which is fine with me. No problem at all.

Neither or our children really “get” how we can be non-monogamous. And I’ve never found a way to answer any questions from them in a way that helps. But, it isn’t something they want so, why should they be any different than all the others?

The biggest thing is that they will talk to us about it.


Son’s Divorce Is Final

Well, our oldest is now divorced. For the second time. Both wives have been someone he met on the rebound. I do believe he is having a harder time with this one. It’s the second after all and he is feeling a failure.

Sure, he could have done things differently but the truth is so could have the ex-wive. And while I will tell him that upon the rare occasion, I don’t so often that it makes him think he had nothing to do with the outcome.

She is still messing with his head. Now, she says she wants to get back together with him, Until, once again, he doesn’t give her something that she wants and then it’s a no go. So, why does he fall for it each time?

I really do not see it ever working with them. I didn’t in the beginning and actually wanted them to just live together for a while before getting married. She wasn’t into that. Oh well.

I hope he is able to just get his head all together, get a new job and actually start a new life. In some ways he does seem to be trying.

He is with us for a week or two for several reasons and maybe that will help.

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A Somewhat Short But, Still Enjoyable Trip

I really need to get a picture or two of OUR actual setup.

Dirk and I went to see our youngest in his newest abode this weekend. We went because his computer was supposed to be fixed and he has been in need of it rather badly. Upon taking the bubble wrap off on our arrival we found that to be false. Not a wasted trip but not one we’d have made if we had known.

Still it was enjoyable even if a bit short.

We took the motorcycle to Pensacola. A six hour trip the way we went. No interstate and you have to stop frequently for gas on one of those things. It was our first real trip on it and it went well. We enjoyed it so much. Found some really great deals on a couple of things we had been looking for to finish out what we were wanting for it. Now we are just looking at a couple of minor things like foot rests for me instead of the pegs. I think I’ll get some benefits in comfort from those. And maybe a cruise control for the thing.

Dirk still needs some boots in the future. The ones he is using are not perfect for this but they are working. Priorities. We just had a list of some things we’d like and what ever came up first that was within out price range would be gotten first. This happened to be some new saddle bags with the sissy bar bags to match. Too great of a deal to pass up even if they were not the first on the list. We adjusted. And we actually found a couple of leather jackets we each liked (and they match…not like us) that was also at a price too good to pass up. We got them without patches of any kind because we want to be able to indulge our personalities on those if we chose to. I’ve been thinking about a Betty Boop one and a Breast Cancer one for mine. No hurry. We seem to be pretty set now for anything we could possibly need for a while in regards to the motorcycle.

The trip back was rather windy and we were happy to use the new jackets instead of what we had with us. They helped much better with staying warm.

I can see us making more trips on the motorcycle when the opportunities arise. Or even making the opportunities. Maybe we can travel with others at times as well.

I’ll admit that this was a bit more tiring than riding in a car but so worth it.

While there, we had a blast with our youngest and his girlfriend. We went to an Irish Pub and the live performance was interactive and they had a good time as well. And they got to see the kind of things we tell them we’ve done and enjoy so much. Good time, good food, good company. The things memories are made of.


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I’m Not Ignoring You

I’m not ignoring you, my blog. I’ve just been so busy and have so many things on my mind that I haven’t been able to settle down and write anything.

Now and until the end of the year, particularly the end of this month, is one of the busiest times I have at work. But I have a job, right?

My family is struggling. Both the boys have been laid off. Just when you think things are finally going their way, too. One has already moved and it took him a bit further away yet again. The other may have to seriously think about doing that as well.

I’ve got plenty of other stuff rolling around in my head as well. Sometimes there is so much that I can’t settle on anything. It’s like all of it has to roll around until it all lands in the other it wants before I can deal with it.  Once it does that, I can start to open each thing and process what I have to.  I need to remember to sit back and wait for that and not try to force things.