This is thoughts I need to work through regarding the Quad I am a part of. I hope to post the good and the bad and that we learned from them all.
We are a quad of two couples and we live 2 hours apart at this time. We met in January of 2007 and totally unexpectedly found ourselves on the polyamory road.
I’ve found that I’ve grown and/or changed quite a bit since starting down this road. I’ve been hurt beyond anything I believed possible and I’ve had such amazing happiness. We’ve made so many mistakes it isn’t funny at all. Yet, I feel when you consider the fact that we were not looking for this or even aware polyamory was something to practice, that we have actually come out in a healthier place than we were and definitely more than would be considered possible.
I feel that I could live monogamously again but I will never again feel that monogamy is the only way. I do not recommend poly to people. It is hard. It is against the social norm and that only adds to the difficulties. I do try to share as openly as I can with those who are truly interested in becoming familiar with the lovestyle.
When I changed my mindset on things I believe that I fully embraced the idea of polyamory. I see relationships in a different light now. I still can see the mindset of monogamy. Mostly because I lived that way for so long. I would truly like to live openly as polyamorous. I support and advocate for poly as much as possible even with my need to be in the closet to a large extend due to my job.
Have any questions on poly? Feel free to ask and I’ll be glad to give you my opinion.
You can reach me by email at firstname.lastname@example.org
I failed to make a statement on this page when the quad dissolved and I feel that it should show here since this is a little bit of an overview of the whole blog.