Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.

About


This is thoughts I need to work through regarding the Quad I am a part of. I hope to post the good and the bad and that we learned from them all.

We are a quad of two couples and we live 2 hours apart at this time. We met in January of 2007 and totally unexpectedly found ourselves on the polyamory road.

Update:

I’ve found that I’ve grown and/or changed quite a bit since starting down this road. I’ve been hurt beyond anything I believed possible and I’ve had such amazing happiness. We’ve made so many mistakes it isn’t funny at all. Yet, I feel when you consider the fact that we were not looking for this or even aware polyamory was something to practice, that we have actually come out in a healthier place than we were and definitely more than would be considered possible.

I feel that I could live monogamously again but I will never again feel that monogamy is the only way. I do not recommend poly to people. It is hard. It is against the social norm and that only adds to the difficulties. I do try to share as openly as I can with those who are truly interested in becoming familiar with the lovestyle.

When I changed my mindset on things I believe that I fully embraced the idea of polyamory. I see relationships in a different light now. I still can see the mindset of monogamy. Mostly because I lived that way for so long. I would truly like to live openly as polyamorous. I support and advocate for poly as much as possible even with my need to be in the closet to a large extend due to my job.

Have any questions on poly? Feel free to ask and I’ll be glad to give you my opinion.

You can reach me by email at lovingmorethanone@gmail.com

Another UPDATE:

I failed to make a statement on this page when the quad dissolved and I feel that it should show here since this is a little bit of an overview of the whole blog.

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7 responses to “About

  1. IntrigueMe says:

    Hey! I love the new layout, it looks great! Thanks for including me in your blogroll, too! This is my first time checking out the new site, gotta take my time and puruse!

    xoxo
    Sarah

  2. Bi-furcation says:

    Hi.
    I’m so glad I found your blog. I am regularly searching for blogs on polyamory. I love that you have listed so many on your blogroll. I see that you have my husband’s blogs linked. I am KB from Before the Flood. I also am blogging about my current relationship at ruminationsofanevolvingsoul.
    One of your blogs that sort of struck me was your discussion on primary and secondary relationships. I can see how your quad and the relationships within it might have a certain hierarchy. I however have moved away from any type of clasification that puts one relationship before the other. Hmmm……perhaps you’ve inpired a post of my own.

    • oneof4 says:

      I started my blog, in part, because I initially had trouble finding blogs dealing with polyamory. I continue to look for them.

      Yes, I enjoy your husband’s blog and have just been reading yours as well and I’ve added it to my blogroll. I hope neither of you mind.

      Hierarchical relationships aren’t really a must for me but it is for one or two in our quad. And it is what it is. I love Chane but I’ve come to realize the limitations and as it stands, it just isn’t capable of being the same type as I have with Dirk. It has taken me a long time to accept this.

      You seem to have a great relationship with two men. Good for you!

  3. Sherm says:

    Hi.I’m so glad I found your blog. I am regularly searching for blogs on polyamory. I love that you have listed so many on your blogroll. I see that you have my husband’s blogs linked. I am KB from Before the Flood. I also am blogging about my current relationship at ruminationsofanevolvingsoul.One of your blogs that sort of struck me was your discussion on primary and secondary relationships. I can see how your quad and the relationships within it might have a certain hierarchy. I however have moved away from any type of clasification that puts one relationship before the other. Hmmm……perhaps you’ve inpired a post of my own.
    +1

  4. Harry Margolius says:

    I stumbled across your website and I’m very glad I did.

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