Loving More Than One

Polyamory as it relates to my life and written from my perspective only. MY thoughts, feelings and opinions.

The Players

Me=Dirk’s wife, and Chane’s ex-girlfriend

Dirk=my husband and Arwen’s ex-boyfriend

Arwen=Chane’s wife and Dirk ‘s ex-girlfriend

Chane=Arwen’s husband and my ex-boyfriend


Eve=a new friend that is uncommonly easy for me to “get”

Jack=a very treasured friend I can talk to about anything



UPDATE: Sadly, the four of us are no longer together but we are all still “the players” in my writings so I won’t be taking this down.

6 responses to “The Players

  1. deb says:

    Interesting blog. I agree with the sentiments. They are the sentiments that I began my relationship with. The trouble is that I feel like I fell so deeply in love with my partner that I no longer want anyone else and it really hurts me that he still does. Can a relationship remain healthy if only one partner is poly? His other relationship is non-sexual (because she couldn’t handle if) but he still loves her and they have a pretty intimate relationship. Any advice? I know I could go out and find someone else too but I haven’t got the energy and I don’t want to risk what my partner and I have.

    • Yes, I’ve heard of relationships that work and are healthy with one mono partner and one poly partner. I feel they can come some issues to face that a solely mono or solely poly one will not have. But that’s the thing about relationships in general. No two are really alike.

      I’m curious. What changed your sentiments? I understand the love you have for your partner deepened but did your beliefs regarding poly change?

  2. Deb says:

    Intellectually I have no problem with being poly but emotinally it kills me. I have really tried to be ok with it out of love for partner but just can’t. Luckily she lives some Distance away and he has agreed not. To Go and see her on his own again. The three of us get on quite well together and I think she is happy for their relationship to be platonic. After me she is his best friend and they have known each other much longer.

  3. dreww2010 says:

    Wow, that sounds complicated.

  4. S says:

    Wow… that’s uh… shit. I thought my world was complicated. I had to take a second to reread it to make sure I understood the connections going on. Can’t wait to start reading!

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